- when your project manager is irresponsible by neglecting to attend to matters where you are to receive the compensation due you - and you have to ask your brother, who just got back from overseas work, to fend for you, when he's not even comfortably well off - and then you and he have to go visit your incarcerated father at his initiative because he is genuinely concerned - the moment the father sees his two children: one gets up to reach for the father's hand to bring to his forehead while the other just sits there, impassive and detached - but the father reaches for the daughter instead and hugs her (which she does not return), lodging away the gesture of the son in the process, hay naku - observed by the daughter with no reaction but with a disapproval that she does not show - and you're interrogated regarding your life, when you have no intention at all of giving answers that indicate a positive and encouraging status in life, or that signify treading a ...